Tuesday, July 3, 2012

A Memorial Series

My ex-husband died last week.  It has been 20+ years since we lived together and 10+ years since we have been divorced.  However, a divorce does not end a relationship as much as changes it. For better or worse, we continued to be connected by our  7 children. 

I thought I would use this month's technique to work out some of my sadness and grief and anger over what could have been but wasn't.  This is only a beginning but I am writing stories about my ex-husband on the tissue paper.  First I will write about the things that he did during the last 40 years that I have not yet forgiven. Then I will write about how angry I am about the things that could have been and weren't.  Hopefully I will be able to end by writing some fond memories and acceptance of our lives that will bring a peaceful closure to our very turbulent relationship.

That is my first step in trying Rosalita's paper cloth technique. When the tissue paper is full of my writing, I will tear it into pieces to glue it to the muslin.  It will become a nice background for ...  I don't know yet.   I think perhaps several small art works to give as a remembrance.
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7 comments:

  1. Lisa KJuly 3, 2012 at 8:10 PM

    What a wonderful way to use the tissue paper technique! I hope the process brings you some peace.

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  2. Karen SJuly 3, 2012 at 8:50 PM

    What Lisa said-- I think it's harder to lose someone with whom you have unresolved issues. Wishing you peace.

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  3. BethJuly 4, 2012 at 5:49 AM

    What an interesting way to review ans coalesce you feelings. I'm anxious to see what you do and how it helps.

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  4. Kathy MolatchJuly 5, 2012 at 2:06 PM

    This is a wonderful and creative way to empty the heart and soul of those heavy and hurtful things, Judith. As Karen S. said, may it bring you peace. Perhaps by the end of your writing and this process, a bit of joy will find its way in as well.

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  5. NienkeJuly 5, 2012 at 4:10 PM

    First of all, condolences for you, Loosing your first man, even it is your ex, hurts. What an intense but good way of writing down your memories and turn them in a piece of Art afterwards. All the best.

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  6. RobbieJuly 5, 2012 at 7:21 PM

    I never cried so hard as I did when my ex died. We remained great friends until that day. We were best friends but...couldn't live together. I still shed a tear when I think of him. This is a wonderful technique to help you through some of this loss...my deepest sympathy.

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  7. Quilter BethJuly 6, 2012 at 10:02 AM

    I hope that working on this piece of art will bring you some peace. This seems to me to be a great way to work through some unresolved issues.

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